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Are there many mature ladies who won't make the 'first move'? - matur ladies in knickers

I've been married for several years matur'ish but my wife did not come to me and wanted to make love, not even in our youth. I take it since time immemorial, the first step and change "a few years ago, still can not talk, discuss, or just Put your arms around me.
Are there many women in the same situation as him?
I love women, but no one has been around for many years and are too depressing.